Special tips for partners

In media/social media when an article is dedicated to burn-out, it is either about causes, either about symptoms and sometimes few tips. But what about the invisible person? The one who is living the burn-out without having one. The partner.

It can be really challenging and also frustrating to be that person, to be the spectator of the collapsing of the one you love. So here, some few simple tips to help partners recognise when it’s the moment for them to shut up, give some space and if there are children, to take the children for a walk.

-Here is a check list.

Does your dear one keep saying “I’m tired”

Yes/No

Is your dear one trying to avoid a conversation with you?

Yes/No

Does your dear one become agitated when you turn on the radio/tv?

Yes/No

Does your dear one look at you pissed when you turn over and over your spoon in your coffee/tea mug?

Yes/No

Does your dear one look everything but enthusiast when you are making jokes?

Yes/No

Do the eyes of your dear one look tired? A bit red or shiny inside and half closed?

Yes/No

If you can answer “yes” to at least two of the questions above, it means that unfortunately, you dear one is now exhausted and can’t manage any noises/ activities/conversation. Give him/her a hug and give that person some space, it doesn’t need to be long but at least 20  minutes. Allowing him/her to rest, to be silent when you need to talk about your day or anything else is the best way to show your partner that you care and that you understand. And please, don’t ask him/her 10 times an hour how does he/she feel? Because she/he obviously feels terrible. All what that person needs is calm, space and a lot of love.

Much love to you and don’t give up, there is a day your dear one will shine again!

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Treat yourself right

It is well known that a healthy diet helps you to be strong and energetic and we will address this subject in a further issue. Nevertheless, once in a while, there is nothing wrong with a special treat and specially if it’s homemade and has no strange chemical additives.

Here an easy and quick (15′) recipe of the famous French Madeleine. Depending on how much madeleines you want, you can play with the amount of ingredients. The ratio is the following one: 1 egg, 50 grams sugar,50 grams flour, 50 grams butter. Et voilà!

First things first, preheat the oven at 180 degrees. Then, start with mixing eggs and sugar, preferably the old fashioned way with a fork. This will avoid you the brain breaker noise of a mixer.

Then add the flour. When you have a compact mix, add the soft butter.

Mix this gently and fill your madeleines pan with this delicious mixture. If you don’t have a madeleines pan you can use a cake pan but don’t fill it entirely.

Put your madeleines in the oven and let them bake for around 10 minutes at 180 degrees. During that time, do not clean your kitchen. You’ve been pretty active the last fifteen minutes, so now it’s time for a glas of water and a little break. Enjoy the cozy purr of your oven and be grateful because you did it!!

When you see that the madeleines start to become slightly brown, you can put them out and let them acclimate to the room temperature. If you feel like it, you can now clean your kitchen and reward yourself afterwards with….. a delicious madeleine.

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Enjoy and be proud of yourself!!!